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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 12:48am on 03/04/2009
Got an email that my subscription to news.individual.net has run out and not been renewed, since I canceled payment a few months ago. I had totally forgotten about that. I guess now it really is over, at least for the time being.
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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 09:48pm on 02/04/2009 under ,
In this article a woman called Dambisa Moyo talks about how she wants the west to stop sending aid money to Africa, because all it's doing is shoring up corrupt regimes and pulling the rug on local economies. I think she's probably right, and I wish a lot more foreign aid money would go into self-help type projects - like micro lending, or helping governments restructure themselves.

Don't have much else to say, except, this has been my thought for years, and I agree, and thought maybe someone else might be interested :o)
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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 02:45pm on 02/04/2009 under ,
We finally have gay marriage in Sweden. Starting may first, the law of marriage will be entirely gender neutral[1]. That it's taken this long is a damn shame, but at least it finally went through. The ruling coalition bypassed the christian party and allied with the opposition. The Church of Sweden will decide how they want to deal with the whole thing this fall, so I guess we'll see then if they choose to retain the right to perform legally binding marriages or not.


I'm not so happy about what I've heard of the proposed new system for student loans, but I'll reserve full judgement until I've read more about it.


[1] We've had civil partnership for gays for a while, this upgrades the name, to make no distinction between people based on their sexuality, which I think is a great thing.
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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 10:22am on 02/04/2009 under
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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 10:08am on 31/03/2009 under ,
[livejournal.com profile] esmeraldus_neo linked to an interesting article about relationships, called Why Marriages Fail. I thought there was a lot of sensible stuff in there[1], but still wanted to chuck in my two cents.

What makes marriage so special? Divorce rates are always brought up, and then people are alarmed at how high they are, at, say, 50%. Why doesn't anyone ever look at non-marriage relationships? In a person's life, how many romantic relationships are actually life-long? How many end? In the world, out of all total romatic relationships, how many end? Marriages are the ones we think, or hope, might go the distance, but even if only half of them do, I would guess that's a lot higher than for non-marriages. I haven't been married, so I don't really know what I'm talking about, but setting the obvious legal and economical changes aside, what's so different between being married, and just living together?

I've been with my bf for just over 6 years, we've lived together for about 5 1/2, we've got a shared bank account for household expenses, we make important life decisions together. If we get married, I imagine we'll have to sort out how to celebrate christmas, because doing it apart will seem a bit silly at that point.[2] But other than that, it seems we already have most of the things a marriage has. Yet, if we break up, that's apparently ok, because it won't affect the divorce rate. That's a bit silly isn't it?

Why marriages fail. Fail. It's always failiure when a marriage ends. Why is that? I don't think it should be seen that way. A relationship that blows up - everyone hates each other, the kids get stuck in the middle, blame and acrimony flying all over the place - that's a failed relationship. A relationship that ends amicably, where the parties agree they've grown apart, can still be friendly, and cooperate about the kids - that's just an ended relationship. Lots of relationships end. I don't see a problem with that, as long as they end well. I don't see a problem with marriages ending, as long as they end well, and I wish our society would stop being so obsessed with the end part, and focus more on the well part.

The only reason we're so upset about marriages ending is that we have some idea that they shouldn't. The church says it's forever, so it should be. That's dumb, and obviously not true for at least 50% of marriages. Keeping this mindset, I think, leads to a lot of marriages continuing after the relationship should have ended, because you're not supposed to end a marriage. That makes no-one happy. Except possibly christian statisticians. Instead, lets embrace the concept of ending relationships well. Death can be one such end - if you want to stay together for the rest of your life, great!. I'm happy for you. If you don't, you probably shouldn't. But please try to avoid blowing up. It causes too much debris and collateral damage.

There is, of course, the issue of children. It used to be that children were primarily produced within marriages. This is no longer quite so much the case. Having children introduces a whole host of responsibilites for the parents - but those responsibilities are the same wether you are maried or not. Once you have children, the relationship can never completely end, you will always be linked by your kids. But it can change. You don't have to be more to each other than co-parents, and as long as you take that seriously, that can work out just fine. And, imo, better for the kids, than having unhappily married parents. I say this as a child of happily divorced parents.

[1] The article itself links further, to something about why evolutionary psychologists think men like blondes with big boobs. That might all be true for all I know, but it sounded ridiculous, so until I get better explanations, I choose to be an unbeliever :o)

[2] There are reasons for this, involving the fact that my parents are divorced, and I'm selfish about christmas.
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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 08:40am on 30/03/2009 under
You Should Get a JD (Juris Doctor)
You're logical, driven, and ruthless.
You'd make a mighty fine lawyer.


I don't think I'm either ruthless nor driven, but still, an appropriate result.
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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 04:59am on 29/03/2009 under ,
Saw ep 1 of Chuck, and there's this action scene at the beginning, and I was all "Woo, they gave Simon a new show!", then he died. Also, it turned out to not be Sean Maher at all, but Matthew Bomer. Those guys look a lot alike :o/ Also, he was wearing shades.

Jayne's in it though.
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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 11:40pm on 28/03/2009 under ,
Just saw this, actually kind of surprised it wasn't picked up - it had a hot, fairly competent lead, a nice litle mystery, superpowers, and almost unlimited potential for showing mostly naked young people being wet. Ok, so the SFX were a little hokey, and the fight scene could have used some work, but still. I'm guessing it was potentially very expensive (lots of water work), and also, I understand Aquaman's problem has always been marketing:

Excec: "What's his superpower?"
Hopeful creator: "Er, he talks to fish."
Excec: "Talks to fish?"
Hopeful creator: "And he swims really fast."
Excec: "Thanks, but kids these days like cool super heroes.
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posted by [personal profile] shriker_tam at 11:40pm on 28/03/2009

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